Why You Don’t Have a Girlfriend?

by John Deus

Why Don’t You Have a Girlfriend?

This article on Why You Don’t Have a Girlfriend is a great opportunity to do the infamous “10 Reasons Why” headline, which is a major clickbait in the blogging community.

But to be honest, I can’t write 10 Reasons why you don’t have a girlfriend or 10 steps to get a girlfriend BECAUSE IT DOESN’T WORK LIKE THAT!

No one can summarize that in 10 steps. I can dedicate this whole blog just on the topic of getting a girlfriend.


Because you probably aren’t doing that good with girls in the first place. To get good, you will have to learn how to attract girls, how to spark up conversations on the fly, how to create comfort and rapport between the two of you, etc.



Anyway, let us take a look at some of the reasons why you don’t have a girlfriend.

The Main Reasons Why You Don’t Have A Girlfriend


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  • Society Screwed up your brain way too much.

You spend your time watching pure fiction on T.V Shows and Movies.

You spend your time on facebook watching a fake portrait of a life that no one actually ever lived, it is just within the flash of the camera that people pretended to be happy, smiling and living the life you always dreamed of.

This screws up your perception of reality and how life is like for other people.



James bondYou think you have to be James Bond look-alike with a DB9 parked outside to get a decent girl, believing that girls will never ever want you because you are nice and not a bad boy. You think you lack this and that so it will never work for you.

Do you have to be any of that to get a girlfriend?


To start off, James Bond, if he exists in real life, is so creepy that even guys won’t hang out with him. Just watch a James Bond movie again and try to filter all the cool angles and unnecessary cuts, imagine that character in real life getting groceries… Smooth is definitely not the word that will come to mind.

Plus, the latest James Bond “Daniel Craig” is not the best-looking guy on earth, he doesn’t even compete, yet he has a massive appeal and his SMV is so freakishly High!


Because of the aura surrounding him, his confidence, and his fame.

You can recreate all of these without being an A-list celebrity, this is an advanced topic and I will write about it in the near future.

If you depend on your car to get you girls, it will attract all sort of girls that you don’t want in your life.

Again this is not a movie THIS IS Sparta? REAL LIFE.

You probably never met a golddigger, you use your imagination/what you saw in movies to imagine what they might be like.

You are far from the truth. They can seriously RUIN your life.

Why You Don’t Have a Girlfriend!

But still, James bond is a bad boy and girls love bad boys, and you are a nice guy!

Why You Don't Have a Girlfriend

1- You are not a nice guy.

You are afraid, lack balls and simply spineless.

That sentence alone summarizes exactly Why You Don’t Have a Girlfriend.

Here is how it goes,

There are no nice people, it is a tactic, a behavior that all the “nice guys” adapt in order to get what they want. It would be very hard to fully explain this now, so I will save it for another article.

2- Women don’t love “evil men” they love bad boys.

You are probably thinking of a criminal when you are daydreaming about being one of the bad boys.

In movies, it works like that, but not in real life.

Women love edgy men, ballsy men, and men living outside of the matrix.

That is best conveyed by being a “bad boy”.

And this will take us to the next point of why you don’t have a girlfriend.

  • You think that all women want, think and react the same way to the same things.woman, hunting, bow

NO, they are as individually unique as men. Women have a wide range of personalities and every single one of them wants something different from the other.

There are some universally attractive traits, like confidence and humor, that attracts the general bulk of women, but there is no single human that all women fall for.

Some women love Brad Pitt, some hate him. Same with Justin Bieber, George Clooney… etc.

No single human will ever appeal to everyone.

No matter how bad your current situation is you can still change it, stop with the pathetic excuses there exists a girl that found, finds or will find you attractive. That Is A Fact. I have been with models that used to think that nerdy, fat guys are attractive because of the idea of her being his trophy girlfriend and making everyone jealous of him.

Long story short, There Exists Someone For Everyone.

You have to put yourself out there and (try – fail – repeat) until you get this area of your life fixed. This is a great journey for a man to take. 

Women do add a great deal of quality to a man’s life.

Approaching women on the street is not as terrifying as you might think. Girls are shyer than you think.  


And this will take us to another point…

  • You have no idea what girls really want! 

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Plain and simple. 

Outside of lesbians or Asexual girls, a normal down to earth girl wants a guy. 

Not a ripped, rich, tall, famous guy.

Just a guy. 

To a girl, what matters most is how you make her feel rather than what you actually are. Yes, almost every girl will list the former when asked what type of guys she wants, but that is a point for another article. 

Now, once you really understand THAT YOU ARE ENOUGH. You will see how girls are simple, they just want a guy that will compliment who they really are. 

In the word “Compliment” lies the answer to the questions dwelling in your mind just about now. 

But what about the girls that only date tall, famous guys?

Well, most girls will mention that but won’t really mean it, to be discussed in a later article. 

But, there are SOME high-status girls who actually got a set of rules about who they will ever let into their lives.

Do I agree with this? 


It is just a reality we live in. Now these girls have such high demand due to being exposed to a wide variety of high valued men.  AND THESE GIRLS ARE SO DAMN RARE! 

Which takes is to the next point on Why You Don’t Have a Girlfriend

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  • You Treat Every Girl like She Is A Victoria Secret Model. 

Stop treating every girl like she is the only one on earth or the only one for you.

The world is FULL of amazing girls, you can easily find another one! 

Stop treating girls like they are these angelic beings that can’t do any harm and are the unicorns of humanity. Girls are just like Boys, they live and die, they are insecure and anxious about stuff, they lack skills and confidence in some stuff, they get into phases where they feel alone and un-sexy. THEY ARE HUMANS AFTER ALL

And you as the guy need to support and assist your girl as she is also supposed to assist and support you so both of you can work on making the other person grow and better themselves while they also take care of one’s self.

You are also a normal human being, you are not some special snowflake, no matter how many times your mom had told you that, after all, YOU ARE JUST A HUMAN BEING

Which takes us to the next point on Why You Don’t Have a Girlfriend

  • You Have High Expectation. 

Now, when this is mentioned usually it means the following: 

If you are the fat, ugly guy then do not expect anything more than a fat, ugly girl.”

This does hold some tiny little bit of truth, but it is not what I meant by lowering your expectations.  

I mean it as gets in touch with reality in your expectation, and that holds and exceeds the physicals. As the above-mentioned scenario of an ugly guy can only get an ugly girl, this is kind of true not due to “ugliness” itself but rather because of What You Bring To The Table

Here is another reality check for you:


Unconditional love simply doesn’t exist, and it is what fucks up most relationships, One part will take the other part of the relationship for granted and stop being or doing what they were loved for and thus the relationship will just fall apart. 

Now, I am probably THE WORST guy ever to give advice’s on long-term relationships, it is not really my thing. But I surely can tell you what will 100% cause a relationship to fail.  

The concept of what you bring to the table is a very long and complicated subject so I will just leave it for another article! 

For now, think of a hot girl and a rich guy,

beyond jealousy, ethics, and the validity of such a relationship.

It is clearly based on the girl bringing beauty and the guy bringing money and the freedom with it. 

That is the simplest way to get an idea of what you can actually bring to the table to build a healthy and long-lasting relationship.

Now, after asking yourself what will you bring to the table, you will be smashed with a desperate wave of nothingness with an echo of a shattered self-esteem. 

And this lovely – insert evil smile – reaction will lead us to our next reason on Why You Don’t Have a Girlfriend:

Why You Don't Have a Girlfriend

  • You Think Looks, Money And Fame Are All There Is.

Actually, They Don’t Really Matter! 

They do, but they don’t!

There are SO MANY VARIABLES to why two people will be attracted to each other. 

Attraction has a zillion variable that includes looks, money, fame, confidence, humor… etc. But attraction is not determined by one variable or the other, it is simply a mixture of everything, and that mixture should compliment the other party in the relationship. 

Now, ALL of these are up to you, you can improve every single aspect of yourself including your looks. But we rather say that it is out of our control than to be faced with the truths of our shameful laziness and lack of will

And that will take us to our next point on Why You Don’t Have a Girlfriend:

Why You Don't Have a Girlfriend

  • Even you won’t date yourself. 

You are living a life ruled by fear and lack of ambition,  your life revolves around skipping through your days hypnotized by society’s useless mini pleasures. You got nothing much going on for you in life, other than that WOW tournament. Your only friends are your mom and the internet. You have zero experience in the practical life and lack any sense of cleanness and personal hygiene.

And then you shamelessly complain how girls don’t show any interest in you because you are short… Really?! 

Out of all the bullshit you are living through that you can easily change and improve, you picked the only thing that is hard to change and start complaining about it!?

And there exists an even worse creature that thinks he is entitled to girls because he is simply nice – being nice doesn’t mean any fucking thing, everyone is nice – and how girls are stupid because they choose douchebags instead.

I don’t know where to begin, should I begin by telling you that you are not really nice, you are just spineless and afraid, or should I comment on how it is very much the sane choice for a girl to choose a guy who takes care of himself, stands up for what he needs and wants and takes no shame in it, can easily protect her and have tons of life experience, let alone connections and friend.

You think that is a stupid choice?! 

What is wrong with you?

Do you think being a successful “Douchebag” -lol- is easy?

Can you stand up for yourself? Stare down another man that is threatening you? Defend yourself even in the face of physical violence? Can you walk up to a girl you like and be honest about your intentions?

Probably not.

Most of the people reading this would have already closed this page, too much “reality” is coming their way and they simply can’t handle it. They would rather go back to being oblivious to this side of life and keep on playing the victim role than to be faced with such brutal reality. 

For those of you who are still here, Hats off Gentlemen. 

To be honest, this is mostly not your fault, you were oblivious to too many facts of this life by the fiction they are feeding us through the media. The good news is, all what you think is wrong with you can be fixed and can be fixed easily. You have an unlimited “mostly free” resources that are here to help you grow as a human. You can find an ongoing knowledge here at MySupremacy.com or spread across the internet. Google It! 

Now this will take us to our last point for today, I know there still a lot more to write, but we will have to save it for another day. 

Why You Don’t Have a Girlfriend?

  • Your knowledge sources are full of shit and they are throwing you off track. 

I find it fascinatingly stupid for average guys to sit around in a mediocre forum discussing how they will die virgins. How all of them will come back to such a place to consume more and more of such negative energy! 

Seriously, WHAT THE HELL!?

Don’t listen to anyone who is not killing it in life. If someone isn’t a master of what he preaches, take his words with a grain of salt.

Always experiment with what you have learned, trial and error is the master of all teachers.

Try to get a mentor!

If you know a guy that is kicking it in life, then learn from him.

Forget about all the generic articles you found splattered online, those “how to get this and that in 10 steps…”, 99% of them are complete nonsense. 

Yet, the internet is full of awesome people sharing their experiences, Find Them


Why Don’t I Have A Girlfriend?

  1. Think that you have to be a movie star, or ripped, rich and famous to get a girlfriend.
  2. Think that all women want the same type of guys and that type is magically not you.
  3. Have no idea what a woman really wants in a man.
  4. Treat every girl like she is the scarcest diamond there is.
  5. Think looks and money are all That matters.
  6. Have unreasonably high expectations.
  7. Got nothing going on for you.
  8. Take advice from the wrong people.
  9. Think you are entitled to things just because you are nice.
  10. Lack of the spine and the will to change your situation.


I know that this article on Why You Don’t Have a Girlfriend will piss off, even more, feminists and white knights who never get tired of sending out E-mails on how we at Mysupremacy.com are teaching guys how to be manipulative, use girls for pleasure, etc.

We Don’t.

We do exactly the opposite. If we leave men clueless about their sexuality and how to handle it,  we will have a world of frustration. If we leave men clueless to how they can better themselves as men and connect with women the right way, we will end up with a world filled with sexism.

Lack of understanding creates confusion, Confusion creates hate and hate… well, it creates all sorts of trouble we don’t want.

Also, I will be more active on Instagram along with all social media networks in the upcoming weeks. 

I will post some pictures of my daily life and adventures. 

And I will post some stuff aimed to inspire and motivate you fuckers to go out there and make it! 

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That was it for today Gentlemen, That is more than enough reasons to Why You Don’t Have a Girlfriend.

Share the knowledge,

John Deus

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Avery February 19, 2015 - 3:09 am

I fucking love you.

John Deus February 20, 2015 - 6:37 pm

You’re Fucking Welcome!

Well thanks for the heads up DanielC

jaredmata July 2, 2015 - 11:25 am

Does this work for thirteen years old

Prince_Mahe October 29, 2016 - 7:13 am

What about trail and error method

ReallyTheTruth April 17, 2016 - 7:58 pm

Well Gee Wiz, could it really just be with the kind of women that we have out there now really be the real reason? Oh Absolutely.

Bertski September 9, 2017 - 5:54 am

I think it’s St. Paul that said we shouldn’t look for a wife. It’s better to be single and lonely than married and miserable! Or one old testament verse reads, it’s better to live in the wilderness (another verse says to dwell in the corner of a rooftop (than with an angry contentious woman. Spiteful included.
But Proverbs, maybe chapter 36, the value of a virtuous lady is told.
Oh, never get a woman with a Champagne appetite on a beermans’ pocketbook!
Another way of looking at things, I was living well before you came into my life, I’ll be just as good with you put of my life.
Now another fellow made a good point, don’t marry a woman you can live with, you should marry a woman you can’t live without.
There are ladies with beautiful hearts and souls, but many agree American women just don’t have the feminine demeanor of women traditionally. So men look to Russia if they have money.
Again, there’s beautiful ladies, but you have to look at their hearts and minds. Same with a woman. But we’re looking at things from one side right now. You can look at it from two sides after you been married a few years and end up in counseling because you have problems.
The cultural norms set a pace others think they need to mirror to be someone, just like any fad.
Where if you is happy single, why mess up happiness?
As myself, I know a persons’ mind enough I know I don’t criticize myself, nitpick, find faults, not do I do things to spite myself, not do I do things to get at me or make me angry. Then when I talk to myself, I don’t have decipher what I’m talking about. I don’t talk in some codes message eitheir. I’m satisfied with the toilet seat staying up, squeezing the toothpaste how I want.
Et cetra.
Then I’ve seen so many women in adult life, where they’re simply users. They look at a man for what they can get out of him. Can be afford me a nice house, nice car, clothes, as well as status among others, provide for the children I want, at cetra.
Sir ‘re sir ra.
Where I don’t like having neighbors eitheir.
Which if I had some physical problems healed correctly, it wouldn’t take too much for me to jump ship and live in the wilderness.
Animals are friendly, even alligators, where they like someone to talk with them. And they don’t cut you off in conversation or try to correct you or make you feel like a jackass.
Grizzly Adams, Davy Crockett weren’t complete fools.
Yet, if there’s a good lady, she can’t be replaced. But make sure you create faults so you can stop doing them and your wife will feel like she’s changed you. Then being created problems and not part of your natural nature, you don’t have to fight it trying to make her happy.
Oh, don’t forget about the texts women will want to put you through. Where any number will destroy your friendships or anything else you enjoy to make sure she’s the most valuable thing in your life and your misery doesn’t matter.
Just something to think about.
Now a lot of guys, I don’t care to be around them eitheir. There’s some, easy to lucky, don’t worry about what you have they don’t etc. That I’d enjoy. But as any number of women say guys are jerks, well so they are, where you’f think most would lose that after high school.
But there’s always those where they worry about what someone else is doing or not doing, have problems minding their own business, busybodies, and government does the same, where give me a cabin, horses, sheep, goats, chickens, quail, pheasants, some good dogs, accessories I would have had 20 years ago, give me an area far from civiliztion with cool summers, mild winters, plenty of wild game and clean fresh water, I might just be able to enjoy life.
You think about that.

al January 19, 2019 - 5:05 pm

I think 30 or 40 years ago almost any man or women could find someone. I don’t think I really want one because I live my life behind religion. If I can have a child with someone I will probably be more religious and teach them to follow church and good.

I have been around women who have found me nice but I never acted on it.

A) I’m afraid to be called out or rejected by them

B) there are other men.

I doubt I’ll ever date. I guess I will have a child someday.

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Sigurd February 20, 2015 - 11:35 am

I like your humor, saying that 99% of 10-step-guides are wrong and then litterally summing this up in 10 steps really got to me, I must’ve laughed for a good minute.

John Deus February 20, 2015 - 6:36 pm

There is a difference between 10-steps and 10-points Summary.
If you do not know the difference between a step and a point, that is something outside of my profession, but you should seek help.

CAPTAIN February 20, 2015 - 7:09 pm

Damn , my thoughts exactly after seeing her . Gonna talk to her tomorrow. Thanks man!

John Deus February 20, 2015 - 7:20 pm

Glad to help.
Talk to her, do not be needy, be chill.
and she is surely happy to talk to you, Captain.

kydee February 1, 2018 - 3:48 pm

hie I hve a crash on this beautiful hot girl but last week she just told me that am never going to yours .Moving on is kinda hard. She in love with the senators son who appears to be more hot, rich and handsome. I need assistance man

Freddie February 21, 2015 - 6:14 pm

I swear this is the best article on the subject I’ve ever read. I’m not looking for anyone right now per say but you’re so absolutely on point that I’m laughing and thinking like a mad hatter.

John Deus February 21, 2015 - 11:32 pm

glad to help!

A real feminist March 4, 2015 - 10:07 am

Spot on.
I just wanted to add one thing. Love and respect yourself, or nobody else ever will.

John Deus March 4, 2015 - 5:15 pm

I am not sure if you are a real feminist or just for adding humor,
either way, thank you and yes first you have to “love” yourself so people could love you.
If you are actually a feminist then congratulations! You are the first feminist since the creation of this site(it has been two months) that does not call me a manipulator, misogynist or women hater.
Thank You

Jessica March 8, 2015 - 7:26 pm

Your way of writing is just amazing.
well written, i hope more men see the world like you.
a question, are you single?

John Deus March 10, 2015 - 5:06 pm


Thank you for the compliment.

I am single.


Avocando March 20, 2015 - 1:07 am

Man, i saw myself many times in this article!
And i like it that you point out the truth about playing the victim and blame it on our physical characteristics. I ve always thought that girls can actually use us with sex cause we want it more. I can totally see reason in your arguments and i will try to “man up” a little and well as you mentioned try-fail-repeat. Keep on telling the truth in our faces even if it hurts eventually everybody will see it.

jakim March 27, 2015 - 11:00 am

i realy tried to go and talk to girls but after a month of “ew’s”, screaming, and girls being complete bitches i stoped, and i’m not even that ugly, im normal, maybe girls where i live are more difficult to aproach.

John Deus April 1, 2015 - 8:41 am


No matter how difficult the girls are, no matter how ugly you are, girls will not reject you by screaming and/or saying ew.

You are doing something wrong.
You probably are coming to strong.
Try approaching girls just asking about time or directions and advance slowly.


Chris April 2, 2015 - 3:09 pm

Yo John. Found this site today and gotta admit: holy crap you are useful as fk. I’ve been out of the game for quite some time and just started getting back in when I started to go University and have been unsuccessful to a large degree (90% fail rate) and Boy i could tell you my failure stories you’ve love all of them.

Anyways mate god bless you buddy and your soul!

John Deus April 15, 2015 - 5:50 am

Thank you!

frank October 18, 2015 - 6:43 pm

greetings. I consider myself normal looking. does that mean i will never get the above average girlfriend? AM i screwed?

Truth May 13, 2015 - 12:52 am

With most women being very high maintenance today, and very selfish just speaks for itself.

Chris June 25, 2015 - 5:04 pm

So much swearing in one article, wow. Some very good points, but seems like way too much trouble to go through for a girl. Applying to NASA seems effortless.

Good luck to all the guys trying to succeed, don`t give up 😉

TruthTeller October 17, 2015 - 6:55 pm

Well if the women today were just like the good old fashioned women of years ago, we would’ve had one already since they were a lot Nicer back then.

vince November 11, 2015 - 7:07 pm

Most girls are not “guyless” for long unless they choose to be. Therefore, this is not rocket science but more like the child’s game of “musical chairs.” Pay attention and adapt / react appropriately.

Jaden July 15, 2015 - 11:21 pm

Thank thats true. Pliz help me i may have the guts to approach a girl but i dont know what to say to her.

John Deus October 1, 2015 - 8:57 pm

Hakuna Matata.

One of my favourite openers 🙂

it doesn’t matter, just go and talk to her.

It is not what you say, it is the vibe behind it.

savianna July 29, 2015 - 8:47 pm

Wow girls try to impress you even here! The guys are asking for your advices! You are a god in the eyes of the weak haha

John Deus July 29, 2015 - 11:49 pm


This is a community, we discuss and share, no one is trying to impress me.

And no one here is ‘weak’.


Mike D. September 15, 2015 - 12:31 am

Bro, your response to Savianna just earned my respect. Your article is great!

kydee February 1, 2018 - 1:43 pm

dude that response left me wondering

Pranjal July 31, 2015 - 12:47 pm

I really liked the article. You exactly know where to strike. Loved the way u explain things.

Derek August 11, 2015 - 8:16 am

I enjoyed this article and I agree

Vitali August 26, 2015 - 2:25 pm

And now I am really depressed.. I lived for so long in my imagined world. I just thought that I am fine and I just have to find that right girl for me..
Any advise for 25 years old who is starting (finally) to see the truth, really wants to change, but feels that wasted too many years of his life?

John Deus October 1, 2015 - 8:59 pm

25 years old, and you think you are old!

when your cock looks like a turtle’s neck is when you are too old for this.
before that,
You have all the time to start.

Just get things rolling, aim and go for it.

andrew October 18, 2015 - 5:10 pm

Hello there. I have concerns and confusions about my life. What i can interpret from this article is that it all boils down to this: work out(gym), make money (lots of it), work on one’s personality and humor. Right? I am 28 years old. I am working on all these EXCEPT the money making department and personality. I have wasted 6 years of my life. But i graduated with a BA degree. I have recently applied for an internal auditing certificate also to improve my CV to get recruited into one of those “big four” auditing companies. But the certificate requires that i need TWO MORE YEARS of training to acquire the DAMN certificate. Which means i will ONLY start working and start making money at the age of 30!!!!!! So that’s two more freakin’ pointless penniless years until i become financially independent and “financially attractive” to women. I consider myself average looking. I am worried that by the time i reach 30 my outer appearance will start to decline and my dating “market share” will shrink severely. I want to enjoy my life NOW!!!! NOT TWO YEARS FROM NOW!!! I don’t know what to do. I am 28 for god’s sake. I always wanted to date those super hot young women in their mid twenties. I can’t help it. I am only human. I like beauty. I mean sure inner beauty concerns me too. Every time i think about it, i feel so frustrated and having those suicidal thoughts. Everyone around me is having the women that they desire except for me. I also feel intimidated whenever i see those incredibly sexy girls shopping at the mall. i think to myself: why can’t i have a girl like that? she will never be interested in a guy like me who is unemployed and broke who doesn’t have a fancy car.What do i do? Any thoughts? thank you for your king attention.

vince November 12, 2015 - 3:16 pm

Many of those girls are weird looking without their make-up… Look for someone with a good personality and be aware of signs that they are interested in you (glances, proximity, talkativeness, etc)
Also, in 6 mos you can do quite a bit to improve your attractiveness . . . Learn guitar, a language, body build, martial arts, a self help blog, ballroom dancing, etc. (just 1-2 hrs a week)

Febrian August 28, 2015 - 9:08 pm

God man. you are the best thing for every guy like me how don’t have any experience with girls

Bithole September 3, 2015 - 10:15 am

#11 You drive a Ford

TheRealTruth October 2, 2015 - 8:24 pm

Well now that many women today are very high maintenance, independent, selfish, spoiled, and very greedy, would be an excellent reason.

David October 12, 2015 - 10:10 pm

The only thing on this list that is remotely true for me is number 9. The only thing I think I’m (or anyone is) entitled to, after being kind to someone, is a “thank you.” On a side note, it still seems to me that even though I have no problems from your list or any others I have read, not one person wants to see/talk to me. This includes everything from people not replying to a text message, to me not being invited to family events. I’m starting to wonder if someone has done something where everyone in the world hates me, including my parents. John, if you have any advice on how to fix this solidarity I call a life, please help me.

Erik November 5, 2015 - 1:53 am

Same, David.

I’m almost 25 and have zero experience with women. For some reason, it just hasn’t happened for me. I’ve asked out women (both in real life and dating sites/apps) who seemed interested in me, but then they ended up either ghosting me..or giving excuse after excuse to not go out.

Worst part is…my Mother assumes I’m gay. Even when I tell her that dating and being in a relationship simply hasn’t happened for me yet, she assumes I’m gay or extremely picky cause I should have been to get a girlfriend by now (almost treating it like property)..

I think the worst part is even if you’re comfortable in your own skin and being single (which i am), everyone else assumes that there is something wrong with you.

vince November 12, 2015 - 12:42 am

Ur not gay but are you acting effeminate? Instead of waiting for things to happen, make it happen. Instead of asking, have them ask.

Erik November 18, 2015 - 8:59 pm

You’re saying not to act effeminate, but then you say to have them ask? Isn’t that a bit contradictory?

vince November 12, 2015 - 3:22 pm

Like many women, your mother doesn’t listen well to you. They’re stuck on their own ideas of romantic dynamics that don’t work too well.

That’s why you have to lead and be your own man. Be kind and compassionate to women but take their advice with a grain of salt…. And never let them lead in action or thoughts.

sunny November 6, 2015 - 9:47 am

Hey friends I am 28 but still not have girlfriend, tried so many times but unfortunately no one said YES. So I decided to live alone forever I think no one is made for me.

vince November 12, 2015 - 12:43 am

communication is not just the words we use.

Neel November 6, 2015 - 1:57 pm

Hey bro loved your article…i am a good looking 17year old and im great with talking to women (yes women :p) just wana ask one thing why cant i keep the conversation going coz there are a hell lot of awkward silences
any thoughts??
Thnx for reading

mickey November 11, 2015 - 9:09 pm

Wonderful article i loved it thanks men.

HahReally November 12, 2015 - 3:49 am

So wait, how do I know all of this is not coming from a 45 year old man smoking out of a bong while playing WoW in his basement living with his mom?

Is there evidence such as a study done in clinical trials to prove all of this works?

vince November 12, 2015 - 3:32 pm

If most of what John Deus says don’t ring true for you (not self-evident for you) then you’re not connecting the dots or you’re using the strategy of “sorting by exception.”

I’d advise you to stick to your own methods until you find a better one. (One well-tested using the scientific method by an accredited university)

John Deus December 23, 2015 - 12:56 am

Nice imagination. Check my instagram

A Fan January 13, 2016 - 6:22 pm

Oh fuck you’re hilarious

vicky November 19, 2015 - 9:31 pm

Hey I m 28 yrs old and i donot hav any girlfriend yet. After reading your articles i get to know the problems I am facing but the main problem i used to face is COMMUNICATION. I do not know what to talk. I don’t have topics to talk. People find me boring after a couple of meetings. I am struggling with this problem. Help me out!! plzzz..

John Deus December 23, 2015 - 12:48 am

Write me on [email protected] with more details about yourself.

Screwitimgoinghome November 22, 2015 - 11:29 am

How offensive this article is.

John Deus December 23, 2015 - 12:46 am


Suujit Chauhann November 26, 2015 - 7:33 pm

You nailed it buddy… Hell yeah you moved me and lately I realized I didn’t had balls to perform in front of girls…

moh December 9, 2015 - 11:52 pm

i’m 22 years old and i’m a good looking guy but i can’t have a girlfriend, it seems way complicated for me i realize i have lived in my own world since i was little that i missed a lot on stuff like this. i don’t have close friends not because no one will be friends with me, sometimes it seems too much work to maintain friendships! actually girls give me messages in social networks or give me hints but i always ignore them i feel like i’m not ready it would be too much work my life seems safe as it is damn i realize my problem as i write this! i think i have a depression or something i probably should see a psychiatrist my problem seems so deep and unsolvable. it’s like i’m avoiding real life. god!
thanks for the article!

John Deus December 23, 2015 - 12:31 am


Have fun.
Just have fun, don’t worry, don’t need, don’t look for.

Just have fun.

E-mail me to [email protected] i would like to know more about you.

Regards, J.Deus

Luke February 17, 2016 - 8:30 am

Thanks a million mate, this is great info because it teaches one to build yourself instead of band-aid yourself. I realized every insecurity I ever HAD from reading ALL of your articles & have damn near corrected them thanks to you & your team. Funniest thing is I knew all this stuff already I just didn’t have the balls or consistent experience to give myself assurance of my beliefs lol.

Mike December 13, 2015 - 5:54 pm

Nice stuff. That’s what I was observing. Being stuck at Number 4 is such a bummer.

Julian December 24, 2015 - 9:48 pm

Girls are funny. So empathetic, but mother nature is one tough bastard.

Cause love is one thing, lust is something else. Much more primal and superficial, yet so fundamental.

Make sure if you´re medicated and in a period of stress. Cause both Things can reduce your “contact” to your testosteron driven male nature.

And that makes you signal tameness. You may still be able to fall in love, just in a more romantic way maybe..

And many ladies will find you sweet if you write poems or something to them, but that can easily get you into the so called “friendzone” I know that all too well, i thought that i had find the woman of my life. But she seemed turned on by me, and we can´t be friends as we used too, because i have different feelings for her. We have many Things in common and have very good chemistry and communication i think, or i thought.

Girls are funny indeet. But girls don´t like sad men, try to be the most confident and relaxed approached to your life as possible.. Things come when they come, you can´t really rush it.

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Mehmet December 29, 2015 - 11:55 pm

First off, a great post! Really helpful, you know what to say to make the reader think. ( It even worked on a non-englishman!)

Currently I am 16 years old, but still see that the stuff what you wrote influenced me negatievly. Although I feel like I still have a long path infront of me, which might lay on my expectaions, and the fact that I would not approach a Girl which I would like, which can be because of my expectations, which I think are quite “rare” per say. Your thoughts? I will list them up briefly:

-Same interests
-Same political views
-Similar activities
-Good shape.

I have the feeling that I overexceed with the expectations how you said, it is depending on “What you bring to the table” although there are so many girls out which are looking on the internet for partners ( I think relationship on the internet is bad btw) , so it cannot be that good looking girls with same interests are accepting only muscular billionaires.

Your Thoughts?


BestAnswer January 2, 2016 - 1:28 pm

Well since so many women today that carry their greed and selfishness wherever they go certainly explains it why many of us good men Don’t have a girlfriend, and since so many women have their Careers today which many of them will Never go with a man that makes much less money than they do since they want the Best and will Never settle for Less.

Eddy January 4, 2016 - 9:39 am

Bit too strongly worded(holy shit that’s a lot of projections), but the article is well written. First time came across here.

Pooter January 23, 2016 - 11:35 pm

Now let me write an asinine article on why you don’t have a boyfriend.

Someguy March 22, 2016 - 5:15 am

A couple of things.
1: Unconditional love DOES exist. Nuff said.
2: Nice guys DO exist. I know this cause I am one. I genuinely care for people and try to put others before myself. That sure sounds nice to me. I believe that there are people out there who are nice and kind just to be nice and kind without expecting anything in return.

Gone March 23, 2016 - 4:50 am

Love to have some same thoughts as me.

juan March 23, 2016 - 8:17 am

Reduce watching pornography also . Just one more reality check. It increases high expectations. (Experience)

Junior June 5, 2016 - 2:00 am

I think,She hates me because she didn’t.like my way to propose her..i just told her that i need her ,in different way..
What should i do to regain her??

Lon Spector June 6, 2016 - 11:35 pm

Nope. It’s ALL ASTROLOGY! The “Love-shy” guy said that. (Glickman.)
It’s to complicated to go into now, but I can attest to that as a 58 year old

Eyvore June 12, 2016 - 7:11 pm

I approve of this message.

Lon Spector June 14, 2016 - 10:54 pm

With Saturn in the 5th house of pleasure, square Moon a guy has two chances
to get sex: SLIM & NONE! Though I MIGHT have a chance in a graveyard.
Google the song “Strange Things Happen In This World,” by Dickey Lee.

Soldeir of fortune August 11, 2016 - 8:20 am

Hello I live in Israel and the mentality of the girl here is diffrent, Here girl only respond to those stupid catch frases. I am a direct person when I want somthing from someone i say it directly. How can i br direct( about sex) and not be consided a creep or a pervert?

Thank you in advnce)

Rifak Ahamed August 12, 2016 - 5:07 pm

one of the best article that i have ever read

Witchman August 18, 2016 - 6:39 am

You curse too much and your grammar is poor.
I stopped reading your article due to this..

Real Nigga August 21, 2016 - 5:15 am

Well if you cared to read more of his content you will find out that his his English is not the best seeing how he’s from somewhere else where English is not the common language.

jonathan September 25, 2016 - 10:50 pm

What is this supposed to do? I’m 24,never had sex or a girlfriend and this is just another useless article. A complete waste of my time. Thx.

John Deus September 26, 2016 - 4:17 pm

Maybe this lame attitude of yours is why you never had sex or a girlfriend.

jonathan October 23, 2016 - 6:34 am

Yeah saying I have a lame attitude doesn’t make this post anymore useful or appealing. Nothing but a mess of arrogant vomit that is not even remotely applicable. Just do this and do that like a thousand of these other Fuckboy posts on here. Dirty dishwater. I did learn one thing though, that going about it the way you did obviously turns someone into a complete and utter asshole. This is not a post for a man, this is a post for a male with a highschool mentality. Again, there is nothing essential about your post, just surface talk and bullshit cliché rhetoric that just washes off on the thousands of us like rain on leather. Thank you for your time.

John Deus October 23, 2016 - 7:49 am

I feel sorry for you, I really do. I could only help until a certain point, but when someone is blinded by hate and anger, no one can really help them. If a free post on the Internet that no one forced you to read and you payed absolutely nothing for caused you all this anger, if someone is so easily moved and disturbed, do you think anyone would really want to be with or around them?. At this point, after all the hate and anger you just displayed, my life will go on the way it was, and I pretty much love my life, but how will your life be?

jonathan October 23, 2016 - 4:03 pm

Ah! So much hypocrisy in one world. Lol I am not upset at all, you just took it that way. Just as how some people would see your post as “to much brutal reality” but….you didn’t mean it that way. You see you didn’t write this for anybody else or to actually help people. You wrote this for egotistical self righteous gains and subtle degradation of all those “who did not make it to the end of your post” lmao! You are really a coward because you cater to the typical feminist selfish demon they call the American woman. You will practically bend over backwards for these whores while authentic men have stayed completely true to who they are. I hate your species. You should go kill yourself along with all your other little ignorant henchmen worshipping your cock in the comment section. By the way, if you have made it to the end of this post without leaving, my hat is off to you. Regards

John Deus October 23, 2016 - 4:32 pm

Jonathn honey, you can’t say you are not upset and then go on saying you hate my species-am I alien now?- and I should kill myself… That is quite much the definition of being upset with someone.most of your comment doesn’t make any sense, I would assume that you are one of those Guys who do not really understand the RedPill teaching and only feed on the hate there. I have never been to the US and don’t think I will go there anytime soon. No one is worshiping my cock thankfully, that would be really awkward. And authentic men staying true to who they are? Really? Did you write that with a serious face?

I guess I do take my daily does of ego boost from my real life, I did achieve a life I will be proud of to the day I die, writing articles using a fake faceless name online is not that effective to be honest.

Listen man, don’t respond to this comment, there is no point in dragging this conversation. But really take a couple of minutes tonight and ask yourself why would you spend time and energy to write a hate fueled comment on some random blog? Why didn’t you just close the page and moved on?
Do it, maybe because you think I am a gigantic asshole and I deserve to know that, if that was your answer, I am sorry, but well, you can always not read my blog and you will be fine. But really ask yourself that, and maybe just maybe you will discover that I touched on one of your soft spots, maybe I touched on something that you lied to yourself about for so long and somehow I pointed out that lie to you and that was what made you so furious.

Darius October 16, 2016 - 1:24 pm

It’s all about fucked up wrong believes we get from an English speaking culture. No other culture has so many issues with opposite genders. If you travel overseas you find lots of women who would be interested in you regardless of any of the above.

John Deus October 21, 2016 - 12:01 pm

Everyone view their own culture as the difficult one and all the others are much easier. People here in Jordan think that sex is just a given in western societies and their society is pretty damn hard, but they are wrong, and you are also wrong. it is just that you have a deeper understanding or misunderstanding of your culture and pure speculations about other cultures, and that cause your behaviour to change when you go somewhere else, that’s why people get laid the most when they travel. it is limiting believes vs. wrong but useful assumptions. Seduction and sexual behaviour is part of the human speicies, just like eating, people may eat differently in different cultures, but they still eat.

Josh October 24, 2016 - 4:59 am

Freaking Amazing.
I agree with everything except for the “I have nothing going on for me” part, I believe I have allot that is good going on.

You see I’d have had a relationship by now (Im 20) if I wasn’t so shy. I know that girls aren’t as scary to talk to as I think, but its just really, really, really and at the risk of sounding redundant really hard to talk to girls I like.

I’ve ruined more than one promising relationship with, if I may say very beautiful girls. I’ve since gotten a little better at talking to girls, but my main problem is actually finding something to say after the words ” Hi how are you?”. And my futile attempts have all ended in embarasment or me having to walk away in awkward silence.

I’ve read similar posts to yours before but you just shouted it out there and I’ll try to remember some of it. So thanks!

As If It Matters November 5, 2016 - 11:31 pm

Do you really have to engage in such ridiculous hyperbole with the common gamer sterotypes? If you think that people who like video games can’t get a girlfriend then you are in for a rude awakening. Please explain to me how it is a crime for a gamer to seek a girlfriend.

John Deus November 6, 2016 - 12:20 am

Why don’t you please explain to me first where the fuck did I say that?
Just because I mentioned that someone has nothing going on for him in his life other than a WOW tournament you made the assumption that I am attacking gamers?
Being a gamer doesn’t mean that you can’t have a girlfriend, but if it is the only thing you do, chances are, you will not do good with girls.
It eats away everything attractive in you if you spend your whole time sitting in front of a computer moving virtual objects with minimal hand movements.

Jez November 25, 2016 - 5:53 am

Thanks John, i really needed to read this today. It’s been a bad week for me as I have tuition fees and rent due next week & I can’t afford it. I have the confidence, bold personality & plenty of humour. (Her friend said this) but i worry that I am not good enough for her because I can’t take her on the dates, give her the gifts and treat her like i think she deserves. There is a mutual attraction there but the lack of finance situation embarrasses me as a man.

Hopefully once Xmas holidays are over with and things are looking up for me/my finances……I can make a move. What do you think?


Abraham January 5, 2017 - 8:40 am

I feel like I can approach any girl just after reading this article, thanx

Alex January 12, 2017 - 11:12 pm

What do you say to a guy who has approached girls his entire life, asked out over 200 different girls,tried everything he can think of, flirting, being nice, every trick, is a decent looking guy, has things going for him, doesn’t give 2 shits what other people think of him and knows he is good enough for girls, but has lost most of his confidence because he is 20 year old kid who has asked out 200 girls and has been rejected BY EVERY SINGLE ONE.

I literally have no idea what works and what doesn’t work with chicks, quite frankly I appreciate the article man, and I agree with everything you say, just be yourself and that is enough, problem is what do you do when you keep getting told yourself isn’t good enough for girls?

I didn’t sit on my ass and mope after HS, i got bullied all my life and changed my life around, lost a bunch of weight, got in shape, and made a name for myself, but I don’t offer much in terms of a ton of friends and life experience because of my past, perhaps that is why I haven’t gotten a girl, idk, kind of hard to get them when you aren’t very experienced in that arena and can’t get that experience cause you can’t get to 1st base, let alone even get into the darn stadium.

Adam January 18, 2017 - 5:46 am

I am 32 and never had a girlfriend. I have made an effort to put myself out there, ask women out, take care of myself and keep in good shape, worked hard in obtaining my education and dream career, and surround myself with good friends and loving family. I have also followed the 10 points in your conclusion (more/less). I do not come off as desperate despite the effort I put into finding someone, nor do I approach this in a negative way despite always facing rejection, or face fear in being rejected by the next girl. I know how great it would feel having a companion to enjoy my laughs and life with.

Do you have any other advice/input you can provide? Feel free to ask any questions you have.

Lon Spector January 20, 2017 - 12:38 am

Well, you’ll just have to get “lucky.”
It’s no coincidence that sex is in the 5th house of the Astrological chart.
Gambling, creativity, and children are also in the 5th house.
“Sex” is a gamble (Feelings, even physical safety) that MIGHT produce
children (At least in the “ancient world’ before birth control was perfected.)
Guys like us WOULD have died out. We are a waste of skin, without (sexual) hope.
Unless you can see value in living despite that fact you’re never going to get laid
it’s best to do yourself in, in the most painless way possible. (Booze and pills or Carbon Monoxide.)

John Doe January 22, 2017 - 7:50 pm

It is the type of women nowadays out there that are to blame.

Lon Spector January 23, 2017 - 5:45 pm

People have prefrences. We can’t do anything about that.
You just have to decide if life is worth living whether you get the girl or not.

Jo February 27, 2017 - 2:21 am

Article is totally irrelevant because you forgot about acne scars. The ultimate deal breaker. It doesn’t matter how hard you work or what you do. People that naturally develop acne scars (to no fault of their own) are forced to choose between a life of shoveling shit or suicide.

Ignorant article.

Lucky April 18, 2017 - 3:14 am

Whenever I am in college or in train there is always a few girls (mostly look good to me) staring at me. Even in gym new girls stare at me for couple of days. I can see that from my periphery vision. But I don’t know what to do. I can’t simply walk and start talking to some unknown girl like in movies. I have a good physique, and looks (as per my friends especially female friends) . Should I really go and talk to those staring eyes, shouldn’t they approach if they are interested in me and if I start conversation what can i say so it doesn’t get awkward (I can’t just go and say “you look beautiful”).

aka April 21, 2017 - 10:15 pm

before i actually go and do it, is there any possibility to earn a gf, if she already has a bf? If so, will it be completely wrong of me to ask her out?

Killalltheimmortals April 24, 2017 - 7:09 am

This is depressing…looking at some of these comments. All you gotta do is change your expectations. Worked for me lol.

It’s simple. Just desire and expect the opposite. Nothing lol. Boom problem solved. I don’t understand it sometimes. What’s the point of trying to do something when time and time again reality has told you it won’t happen lol? Get over it dude.

Why are you guys killing yourselves with these false hopes? Focus on what you can do. Here’s a question. What value does a gf bring to your life that friends, hobbies, or porn can’t? And all those things are practically free.

U gotta beg a person to spend time with you by pretending to be someone you’re not just to be like a bunch of people who don’t give two effs about you. That’s STUPID lol. Unplug yourself from the machine dude.

John Deus August 15, 2017 - 11:49 am


John April 26, 2017 - 6:08 am

Please clean up the spelling, punctuation and grammar so I can take you seriously. Also, please explain why I need a girlfriend. From what I can tell, women don’t do anything positive for men. Why would I want one?

John Deus August 15, 2017 - 11:49 am


Lon Spector May 1, 2017 - 10:51 pm

If you’ve got functioning testosterone you WANT a girlfriend.
That’s how God designed us.

Dbdjdjdnd May 11, 2017 - 10:28 am

Well, that’s how he designed you….maybe. But, you certainly can’t speak for me as we don’t share the same beliefs. Period.

Lon Spector May 18, 2017 - 9:56 pm

It’s nice that you have the ability to hold a piece of burning coal in your
hands and feel no pain. That doesn’t apply to most guys.

Lon Spector May 26, 2017 - 10:53 pm

Are you a glutton for punishment?

And The Truth Is June 6, 2017 - 12:41 am

Well unfortunately with so many women nowadays that are Gay And Bi which makes it very difficult for many of us Straight Good Guys trying to meet one that isn’t at all.

John Deus August 15, 2017 - 11:47 am

And you are, supposedly, a good guy?
how so?

Evin June 19, 2017 - 3:01 am

Region I don’t have no girlfriend they don’t want me because I was home school and I don’t know anything about life I don’t want girls that just want sex I want a good relationship my life is not my fault it’s my parents fault

btek June 24, 2017 - 1:56 am

for certain is not your parents fault. but yours. you don’t make a girl attracted to you by going to a public/private school. man, except going in Harvard, you wont impress a girl where you was in school. (even harvard has not even around 60% chance to impress her to be with you). Going in a good school will make her think that you are or smart or rich.

but you can totally change her mind, in an instance. But not talking about school.

A friend of me is home-schooled too. and he is a “lady destroyer” when its about girls. He has been in a 3 years relationship now… and Im sure he didnt keep the girl just because he was not in such school..

its on you. all on you, you chose if you want to get progress or not.

John Deus August 15, 2017 - 11:47 am

regardless of your situation man, the cool thing about hooking up with girls is, there is no single thing that you do or happens to you that will absolutely ruin your chances for life, that is not how it works.

We all have been in difficult situations in our life, and they might impacted our social life and skills, but the key is to recover, and do the necessary to fix that issue.

Do something about it, slowly you will get over that.

Ken June 20, 2017 - 1:20 am

This is a good article, but perhaps you should re-post it taking out all the swearing…bad language adds nothing to the credibility of your argument, and simply makes YOU seem inarticulate and ignorant.

btek June 24, 2017 - 2:01 am

Ken, if you are not aware about the mysupremacy.com purpose then you are wasting your time here.
This page is to hit you with the reality, show you the truth and tell you how to get your ass out of the shit-hole place you’ve put your self into. this is not some BuzzFeed post trying to tell you that your tears matter. or saying sweet things to you. John writes these blogs to hit you with the reality, with how things are, not how we expect them to fucking be. because things will never be as we want them to be if we dont face how they are now.

Rob June 28, 2017 - 12:03 pm

fuck bro the words and reading and the hard for me to

Rob June 28, 2017 - 11:58 am

Every word absolutely fucking true.

The Whole Truth July 10, 2017 - 6:19 pm

Most of the women nowadays are really damaged goods to begin with since they like sleeping around with so many different men all the time instead of committing themselves to only one guy.

John Deus August 15, 2017 - 11:43 am

Most of the men nowadays are really damaged goods to begin with since they like sleeping around with so many different women all the time instead of committing themselves to only one girl.

Don’t shame me bitch.

The Whole Truth September 11, 2017 - 2:19 pm

Said the Loser.

John Deus September 11, 2017 - 9:23 pm


Paul July 30, 2017 - 4:00 am

I never approach women because I’m realistic enough to know that there’s a 100% chance I’ll be completely rejected by every woman I might try to introduce myself to. I am successful in every other area of my life and have many woman friends. Unfortunately, no matter what anyone tells me, the fact is, I cannot see how – and there is not a shred of evidence that – it could be remotely possible for any woman to be attracted to me in *that* way – so I’m doomed to remain chronically single.

btek July 30, 2017 - 11:50 am

if you are successful in every area of life, then you are missing confidence.
In my experience there are 3 (or more) type of women.

1- likes power, money and similar.
2- likes for the model looking, good body etc.
3- confidence and personality.

Lets say that you have succeeded the first two. The 3rd is what makes every women attracted on you. and if you fail the 3rd, then she will use just for the first or second.

Try to get embarrassed more, and push your self into confidence. The greatest fear can be overcome when you do it.
You can do this man.

Best of luck on it bro.

John Deus August 15, 2017 - 11:42 am

Great response man!

John Deus August 15, 2017 - 11:41 am

There are almost 3 billion women in this world.
There. is. absolutely. zero. chance. that. none. of. them. will. like. you.

“I cannot see how – and there is not a shred of evidence that – it could be remotely possible for any woman to be attracted to me in *that* way – so I’m doomed to remain chronically single.”

“That” way??
There is no other types of attraction, attraction is the way to sex.
Maybe all that is happening to you is that you are blinded by your view of the girls attraction to you.

Maybe “That way” they are attracted to you is all you need?

Believe me, it is much more fun to go out and enjoy your time with the company of amazing women than to think that you are that special snowflake that no girl will like.
Best of luck

Paul September 5, 2017 - 12:37 am

Thanks for your response and words of advice. I do have many amazing woman friends, and have a wonderful time in their company. The reality is though, that for me to move from ‘friends’ to the next (sexual) level, I would need to be sexually attractive to women – i.e., women would need to be sexually attracted to me. I believe that I am not – nor have any hope that I could be – sexually attractive to any woman. This is why I consider myself doomed.

John August 4, 2017 - 7:17 pm

Interesting article. I landed on it because I was questioning whether or not I wanted a girlfriend. I just got done with one. 8 months living together. I wasn’t very happy with it. I used to be married 12 years. It wasn’t the best time of my life. I seem to be happier traveling around and enjoying my life by myself and hooking up with random girls. Is there something so wrong with that? Why is the aim to get a girlfriend? What’s wrong with just hooking up? I’m curious what the author would say about this.

John Deus August 15, 2017 - 11:36 am

Hey John,

Glad you liked the article!

Definitely there is nothing wrong with that, I enjoy hooking up so much that I am not so into relationships.
relationship is the way to go is a social construct, its the way lesser people try to shame others.
My advice to you is keep on doing what you are doing as long as it makes you happy and doesn’t harm others.
One day you will meet a girl out of your usual hookup routine, and you will enjoy her company so much and so she does and slowly you will want to spend more time with her, and you will view having sex with other girl as a less fun thing to do than hanging out with her.
That is how you get in a relationship.

Enjoy your time!

?????? August 19, 2017 - 10:05 am

I will never find someone since I’m never good enough and I have too many mental illnesses taking me down. I don’t have irl friends and I am too much of a little bitch to go to a cafe all by my self and talk to someone. I go to the gym reguraly and I take care of my face but I still cannot get through my mental problems. I never really leave my house other than for the gym or college (which btw is a dude only college)

The Whole Truth September 12, 2017 - 10:25 am

John Deus, I will very much explain the whole truth why many of us good men out there never had a girlfriend at all. Today most women have really changed since years ago when finding real love wasn’t that hard at all for the men back then that had it real easy at that time which they really did. Most women years ago were raised by very good parents when they were growing up since most of them were real ladies at that time too. They had a very good personality and had a lot of respect for the men in those days which many men did have respect for the women back in those days as well. That is why it was very easy meeting women back then since they were very much different than today and totally the opposite of what these women are today which is why men had No Trouble at all meeting women. Today unfortunately a very completely different story since Most of the women of now have no personality at all, no respect for many of us good men, and their manners are very horrible as well. It has become so very dangerous for many of us good men to talk too women now since they will even Curse at us for No Reason at all since i had this happened to me already as well as other friends that i know as well. So it is the women of today that are really to Blame why many of us good innocent men don’t have a girlfriend at all which this isn’t our fault to begin with in the first place. The other problem is that many women now want men with money since they’re real Golddiggers these days since they will use these men for money just to get the nice expensive gifts that they want which really makes these type of women such Users And Losers as well. Lets face it which it is the women of today that have Really Changed from the Good Old Days which does certainly tell the whole true story since many of us men Really Don’t have to feel so bad at all to begin with. And many of us men are very good as well since we would really know how to treat a Good Woman with a lot of love and respect when are time comes to meet the Right Good Woman for us since they’re out there somewhere. And i wish you good luck as well.

Serpent17 October 3, 2017 - 11:21 pm

What a load of crap! This is all “100% PURE BULLSHIT!” as your “cool” poster says.
It’s so stupid and full of shit that I can’t hold myself from commenting.
“There is someone for everyone” – I heard that fairy-tale shit a 100 times! And IT’S simply IS NOT TRUE! It’s just mentoring/training/psychoshit bullcrap!
Your ideas of what “should” and what “should not” be is an ass piss on other people’s lives! You don’t have even a blink of idea of how actually feels someone who was shunned, mocked, ignored, laughed up and betrayed for all of his/her life!
You’re just another wisearse from the Web, who doesn’t know nothing!
You are just a parasite on the body of the web society!
You should be ashamed of yourself!

John Deus October 4, 2017 - 10:31 am

Take a breath there buddy, you don’t want to hurt yourself over an article.
There is someone for everyone is simply statically true, since there is a fairly 50/50 female to male ration worldwide.
If I have to be honest with you, I’d say it will be very hard for you to find someone who will take your shit. You being this pissed off does indicate that you are either having the worst day of your life and happen to stumble onto my site, or you are just a bitter and full of hatred dude.
The way you presented your comment, your choice of words and your use of capitalization does also indicate that you lurk on sites like infowars, reddit/s/incels, or something similar.
Look man I am sorry I caused this much anger, wasn’t my intent. You can live the rest of your life this full of hatred and anger, believing your life is the hardest life there is, and you, little snowflake, is the victim of this cruel society and the evil nature of women. That won’t hurt me, or anyone else other than yourself, it does pain most people seeing someone living full of anger and hate, wasting a lifetime of good times and great relationships, but no one will concern him/herself more than mere seconds, and they will go back to enjoying their life. You, on the other hand, will live with that BS for the rest of your life.
Is there a chance that maybe, just maybe, you are focusing on the negative BS and just limiting yourself?

It is up to you.
If you don’t want to spend a lifelong of misery, you should seek help.
You are welcomed to email me on [email protected], write me your situation like a normal civilized man would write, and I will help you.
It’s a completely free service for you or anyone seeking help or just wanna chat, but keep in mind that it will take me a while to get back to you since I get shit ton of emails there, but I promise you that you will get an answer sooner or later.


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Arthur January 7, 2018 - 3:56 am

The reality is that a guy has to see himself as a guy that girls want to be with before they’ll see him that way. Since this is impossible for me, I have zero chance of ever being attractive to women. As such I never ask women out because complete rejection would always be guaranteed.

Dan February 19, 2018 - 5:55 am

Girls ONLY respond to good looks.That is a fact.Not 1 single other thing will make any difference to your success with women.A good looking guy can get a garaunteed date within hours no matter what he says or does.An ugly guy can be an absolute champ, and not get a second look for years at a time.
Stop with this bullshit that you can change this that or the other.Your success with women is written into your genes…..

Dan February 19, 2018 - 6:10 am

Also, even if there is somebody for everybody, there is a high statiatical probability you will never meet them, since you would have to get to know tens of millions of women to find “the one”
In fact your odds of meeting someone are woefull at best if you are average looking and/or ageing.By the time you are 30, 70% of all women in your age group are married/partnered.Of those who are not partnered, almost all will have minimal sexual appeal. Further to that, if you are below average in the facial department, less than 1% of women will consider you as a sexual partner, irrespective of any other traits you may posses.Studies have shown women rate unnattractive looking men poorly, even when they have the most desireable personality traits.

Lon Spector February 25, 2018 - 2:50 pm

Well, what you’re saying is that a certain number are doomed to go without.
It’s possible to go without a girlfriend or wife, but if you want sex badly enough and are
willing to under go the efforts to get it, you CAN experiece it sparatically.
Your alternatives are prostitution, escorts, masturbation devices (Including sex toys) or
chemical castration.
There’s just to many low SMV males today. Facing reality is the only choice we have.

Joshua June 7, 2018 - 2:50 am

I believe in what you say however I just want to say people have different problems and different reasons for not beings able to find a partner.

I’m not mad but I just want to state that I don’t blame women as a whole for my problem In fact I usually just end hating myself for being so stupid and a lot of the time guys want to get girls but don’t want to come off as sleazy and are scared of seeming stuck up for one.

it’s important to remember that if you want to be confident that you have to kind of shrug off any insults for that confidence and remember you deserve to have a self-esteem that those people are just assholes or just want to test you and you are just as good as the person your trying to get with and don’t feel too bad when it doesn’t work sometimes.

it is just a simple matter of your not her type but your someone’s type and I just want everyone to know that yes it is true women want guys who will stick up for them but there are different ways of standing up to someone even if you are a timid person and don’t like fights don’t worry you don’t have to punch every person you are angry at but you should give her a sign that you’re on her side and call someone out on what a douche they are is enough.

hell sometimes just saying fuck you to the asshole is enough and don’t worry if the guy threatens you because most of the time there just trying to get in your head and make you look bad even if you can’t stare someone down you can still play it cool and act like their bullshit doesn’t affect you.

it’s worth noting that most people don’t like physical confrontation no matter how they act but even if you’re way doesn’t look as cool as just going for the nock out but anything is better than nothing and she will still appreciate it because the fact that you weren’t too scared to do anything and the fact that you still stay by here in really crapy situations will still mean a lot to and if you still fill like you haven’t done enough or she’s still upset then try to make it up by comforting her and listening to her complain and you know what chances are you hate that guy too so try stating that you agree with her and you can both bond over your mutual hatred for a person.

Joshua June 7, 2018 - 3:16 am

I understand that some of things in my last comment might seem hard to believe I’m just saying that just like how you don’t have to be a castenova to get laid or get a girl friend you don’t have to be the taughest guy in the world to keep them or prevent them from thinking less of you sometimes what matters in those situations is the fact that your there for her but if you 2 do get mugged or something don’t be scared to atleast try to fight them leaving the girl aside as someone who was bullied there whole life and has been in numerous situations where I had to defend the people I love from dangerous people I can onestly say that the feeling of guilt and same for doing nothing cause your scared will stay with you way longer and hurt way more than any cut or bruise, scrape than you might get in a fight and who knows you might win.

I’m not discrediting my last comment but just like sometimes you can prove your still very much a man without putting your hand on someone sometimes in very serious situations you don’t have a choice but you know what it’s okay to try and it’s okay to fail even if you do fail you’ll feel way better than if chicken out.

Lon Spector June 9, 2018 - 3:31 pm

It seems that you’re apprehensive that you might be called on to fight other guys who would
threaten your proposed girlfriend. You think they will try to intimiadate you in front of the girl,
and she would probably leave you, if you are not “man” enough.
Don’t worry if you can’t “take” other guys in fights. But DO worry about whether you can handle
yourself in a crisis. If something brakes in your house, you should be able to fix it on the spot.
Not a major thing, but you should be able to handle “local” emergencies. Anyone can get beaten or
killed anywhere, so don’t worry about that. FORGIVE your girlfriend if she cheats. This is a new era and
women can do everything men can do.

AW July 29, 2018 - 11:50 am

Well with a very high list of demands that women want today is that men must have hair, in excellent shape, a great career making a six figure income, a real expensive car too. But the trouble with that is which most women are very horrible and obese to begin with, especially the ones that think they are all that too which their not at all. A good 75 percent of the women today are just down right very pathetic, especially since they really have no personality and no manners at all when it comes to men.

Lon Spector August 4, 2018 - 1:32 pm

Men will ALWAYS be expected to be the one’s that aggressively persue sex.
A man needs to have enough gristle to go after what he wants. If he can’t do that, he won’t be of
value to a woman in any other area. You can’t change nature, and you can’t change people.
Only God can.

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Steve. May 27, 2019 - 1:11 am

This is just the kind of brutal honesty that everybody needs to be exposed to once in a while, myself included. Actually I was looking for another article of the same kind, which I read long ago and came across yours. Thanks for the wise words.


Steve October 29, 2019 - 3:47 pm

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