The infamous Friend Zone
I have been writing this blog for a week now, and I have already received 100’s of emails asking me about the friend zone, and how to escape it. escape?!.
Here is my answer, and properly you won’t like it.
There is nothing called the friend zone, a girl either wants to sleep with you or not. The friend zone is the I-don’t-want-to-sleep-with-you zone, but men try to rationalize why a girl didn’t want to sleep with them with lame excuses, like being too friendly. instead of admitting that they don’t really own their balls.
Let’s break one scenario of your average friend-zoned guy; a guy meets a girl, he likes her and all, but he isn’t sure what to do, so he decides to use one of his “tactics”, being nice and friendly -yes this is a behavioral tactic, there are no nice people, future article on that- . He thinks “maybe if I was nice enough, she will eventually love me and we could have SEX!“.
He sticks around being nice and all, with time he finds out that nothing is ever going to happen, so he decides that maybe after all these months PRETENDING TO BE HER FRIEND he would open up to her and tell her how he feels,
despite his balls raging over him, he does so and …. you know the rest.
Who to blame for the Friend Zone?
Let’s start explaining that by saying, BOTH parties are to blame here. The guy for betraying his chain of ancestors and every single semen in his ball sack, he PRETENDED to be nice, he PRETENDED to be her friend, and most importantly he did not go after what he wanted, and that is PATHETIC.
If you are afraid to go after what you want, you are not a man at all, nothing to blame here, other than yourself.
The girl is to blame too, but not for what you expect, she is not entitled to sleep with you because you are nice, no one is entitled to do shit for you. grow up.
She is to blame because, she knew that he actually likes her – they always do! but decided to go on and use him as much as she can. so ladies, if you kept a guy around you and used him knowing that he has feelings for you, then you aren’t a lady, you are a manipulating bitch. get that straight.
Dear men, the solution to never be friend-zoned, is to never pretend.
Never pretend to be anything you aren’t, never pretend you are nice to get this or that, never pretend to be her friend just to stay around.
Always own what you want, you want her to be your girlfriend? then fucking own it, convey it.
Even going up straight and telling her about your “Feelings” early on is better than sucking it up and pretending you are just here to be her friend.
What the fuck are you afraid of? What are you ashamed of? are you ashamed of being a man and having sexual desire? fucking grow up, you have a dick, own it.
It is never a shame to love someone.
It is never a shame wanting to sleep with a girl. having a sexual desire isn’t a bad thing, being led by them all the time surely is, but having a sexual desire is totally OK.
If you don’t want to be friend zoned, then stop acting like a 10-year-old girl.
Stop being clueless, own your sexuality, own the fact that you are a man.
Be proud of it, communicate it, let girls enjoy your masculinity.
For escaping the ‘friend zone*’, I would say the best most basic approach is to stop chasing that girl, after all, it is never that one special girl, there are millions, Read this…
I will write a further post on some steps you can take to “Regain” her sexual interest in you, stay tuned.
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