Become The Bad Boy That Women Loves Pt1: Inaction

by John Deus

How To Be The Bad Boy That Women Love!

Let’s talk about bad boys! 

Wow, it has been a while since the last time I wrote something!

As I have explained on my Instagram, My personal life required my full attention the past couple of weeks, but now hopefully I can make more time for the blog!

I apologize for the cringy post title, but it is a recurring theme I have been noticing in the community and the emails you guys send me.

Nice guys vs. Jerks, Women only fall for assholes, women want bad boys, etc. etc. etc.

I do understand how this stereotype was born and understand the bitterness in the hearts of the so-called “Nice Guys”…

“OH! she didn’t like me because I am a nice guy!”

No, she didn’t like you because you are fucking boring 🙂

So here it is, how not to be boring, or in other words… how to be the bad boy who women love!

How To Be The Bad Boy That Women Love!

I’ve read a bunch of articles on the topic of nice guys vs. bad boys just before I started writing this article, and to my surprise, the overall bulk of these articles have no clue what they are talking about.

It feels like every time someone wants to talk about this topic they watch some movies and then try to pinpoint what made the leading actor so sexy.

Go right now and google “How to be a bad boy” and I am 100% sure in ALL of the articles you will read there will be some examples of a guy in a movie and how he acts, usually James Bond or Christian Grey.

And they go on and on with these lists of characteristics that Bad boys have and nice guys don’t. Now these characteristics are good to have on the surface level, they just over complicated the whole thing. 

Look, being dominant, indifferent, entitled, exciting, free, selfish, a leader, masculine, mysterious, unpredictable, a tease with a sparkle of menace vibe are all on paper pretty impressive characteristics to have. 

But, you can not convey this to people, and that is where everyone went wrong. 

It is not the things that you do that makes the girl think you are all these; it is the things that you do not. 

It is your inaction that makes her fantasies about you being that bad boy with all these characteristics.  

Sounds weird, I know… but trust me on this. 

Ask any of your hot female friends about the guys in their life, let her tell you about that guy that is so X and Y, and he is driving her crazy. She will list all the above qualities and tell you he is all that. 

If you got the chance to meet him, try to get to know him a bit, and you will discover  90% of the time that he is just a lazy douchebag.


Look, a guy treating her badly or being so much of a jerk is not because of individual actions he does, it is because of the things that he does not do. 

Regardless of all the great things she does for him, he rarely ever do something nice. 

And that is the secret, just be nice whenever she starts to take away her attention from you. 

Do not do nice things until she had enough of your “assholeness” and at that moment do something nice to her and go back to beings an ass.

Repeat this cycle over and over again, and you can get a girl to be attached to you for eternity! 

How To Be The Bad Boy That Women Love!

Now is that manipulation? 

Sweet baby Jesus it is! 

Does it work? 


But that is it, whenever you hear a girl talking about a guy being all this bad boy and being mysterious, etc. that is what is most likely to be the case. 

You see, whenever you do something nice, or you do not do something nice, a girl in her mind tries to make sense of why you did or did not do that thing. 

So whenever you do nice things to a girl over and over again, she starts to wonder why you do it. 

First, she thinks you are nice because she is pretty or whatever. 

Then she thinks maybe you are just a nice person in general. 

And finally, she thinks that she is your whole world and you are too clingy, and so she freaks out, and you become unattractive and viola, she is gone 🙂 

But when you mix it up, she will start wondering more and more to why you do these things, and thus you will spend more time in her mind, and she will blow you out of proportion and start associating all these qualities with you. 


Take the following as a golden rule

You will never be as attractive as the fantasy of you. 

So when you be nice, predictable and very honest, you will destroy that fantasy of you in her head, there will be nothing for her to wonder about. 

The bad boy is not the thug or the criminal; it is the not so nice guy. 

He is normal, just not that nice. 

And you become that by lowering the effort you put into interacting girls. 

Just get ready to lose a lot of girls at first, until you figure out exactly the pair minimum effort required to keep girls around. 

You do not have to be nice all the time, or go overboard with gifts and dates and so on to keep a girl interested, it is quite the opposite. 

It will be hard at first because we are all raised to court girls and be obsessively nice to them and so on, but with time you will see that sleeping with girls and being an attractive guy comes from what you are and not how much effort and investment you put into the girl. 

I will keep this one short and talk more about building yourself to be an attractive guy later. 

That was the lesson for today, the thing you have to di is, do not do much, less is better. 

John Deus, bad boy

Related Articles


W July 29, 2016 - 8:57 pm

Hey Jhon, my english suck…a lot, i just wanna to say, thank you…really,your posts are helping me in a very good way, i just had a bad time with ”oneitis” recently , and then i found this glorious site, and this is helping me to improve my game…A LOT, thank you man, and keep going with this.

John Deus August 10, 2016 - 8:40 pm

Always amazing to hear that I helped someone, many thanks!

Jack L. August 6, 2016 - 10:56 pm

Man, I love your point of view. You go straight to the problem, without fancy bullshit. I even like your free format, because it is very readable. Thank You for your effort, and don´t let us, readers wait too long for other articles parts! Thanks

John Deus August 10, 2016 - 8:41 pm

Thank you, I try my beast to make time for new articles, but just my busy schedule keep it hard for me!

But I will write whenever I can!

Bigd1ck August 18, 2016 - 6:34 pm

Love ur blogs john. your stuff is easy to read and gives me good information how to stop being a pussy 🙂

Val Papillion August 24, 2016 - 6:21 pm

In my previous article Reaons why women get attracted to bad boys i said that women associate the traits of a typical bad boy with masculinity and confidence.

Saeed November 3, 2016 - 1:05 pm

another title for this amazing article , How To Stop being a pussy !

thank you so much Sir , i really appreciate ur efforts
ur articles are just life changing , and it really effects … i always used to search for this kinda stuff u write … then finally found your Website.

u remind me , Barney Stinson , from How i Met Your mother Tv Series ehehe xD he used to post some on his own blog , that i never found 😀

and sorry for my broken english

thanks a lot ,

Respect .

Tanner May 27, 2017 - 11:21 pm

The “bad boy” types I have seen usually aren’t really exciting at all. My sister’s husband is an insufferable human being, is generally mean or underhanded to everyone, yet my sister adores him, and all he does is watch Batman movies all day, or play Batman games, obsessively, or whine about how he thinks everybody is against him. He also does nothing job wise. It is my sister who makes all the money for them, and the food (whenever they cook), and more. My cousin’s husband has many of the same flaws, and depending on who you ask, most people would call him boring, as all he does is drink copious amounts of beer and get his truck muddy. The guys I grew up around life virtually the same lifestyle, sometimes with the addition of hard drugs and jail sentences. I know this sounds like a bit of a rant, but these “bad boy” types usually aren’t exciting at all.


Leave a Comment

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

%d bloggers like this: